Not wanting to be needy

“A need is life seeking expression within us.”
“If we don’t tell people about our needs it is much less likely they will
be met.”
-Marshal Rosenberg

Happy Fall!
Writing a short note to you today to request your help in spreading the word
about the 9 week self-compassion course I’m co-leading this October. I’d really
appreciate if you’d check out the website and if anything resonates consider
sharing it with those it could support.

Check it out HERE: Science of Self-Love: Mindful Self-Compasion Course

As you know, this work has been particularly empowering to me over the past
several years and I believe strongly that it can o

er needed support to those of

us who are…
people pleasers
over achievers
caretakers
and those of us that are much kinder to others than we are to ourselves.
I feel passionately that this work needs to get out into the world and have a
burning desire to be of service to those it can support.
However, I need help spreading the word. This feels vulnerable to name, but
one of the many lessons I’ve gleaned from learning to love myself is that it is
okay to ask for what you need.

Many of us (myself included) have a challenging relationship with our needs. The
word “need” in and of itself can be triggering.
Most of us have a strong desire to not be “needy” and add in a culture that
values independence, “making it on your own”, and the “lone hero narrative” and
you’ve got a recipe for a whole lot of people who don’t know, accept, or feel safe
asking for what they need.
When we don’t know how to greet and meet our needs, su

ering happens

collectively in big and small ways.
So I’m on a mission to embody and spread the idea of our needs being okay. It’s
okay to need what we need and to pursue meeting those needs (with kindness,
humility, and creativity).
Loving ourselves has to be the foundation for this mission. When we love and
accept ourselves unconditionally, we also trust that we can and will meet our
own needs.
This love and acceptance provides the safety needed to look deeply at our own
needs, be vulnerable when we’d like support in meeting them, and not take it
the wrong way when others aren’t able or willing to help us.
So from this place of love and acceptance my request is sent out to you today.
Here is the site again: Science of Self-Love: Mindful Self-Compasion Course
Please consider checking it out and sharing it with those who could bene
t.

Sending you o

in this new season with the invitation to consider where your

needs are going unmet lately.
Is there a need that you are denying?
Where could you drop more deeply into the idea that it is okay to need what you
need?
Because it truly is okay!
With gratitude,


Jennifer

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