“Unless you tackle and weaken your own internal enemies-we’ll call
them the Saboteurs–they will do their best to rob you of any
improvements you make. Ignoring your Saboteurs is analogous to
planting a beautiful new garden while leaving voracious snails free
to roam.”
-Shirzad Chamine: Positive Intelligence
Happy January!
It’s been awhile! I hope you are well 🙂
How are you feeling at the start of this new year?
Where are you with setting intentions, goals, habits for this fresh start?
It is almost cliche to speak about how most of us fail at following through
with our New Year’s resolutions! However, it is inevitable that many or most
of us who set resolutions (or goals, intentions) will end up floundering at
some point early on and don’t fully follow through.
This can be for a number of reasons:
Our goals are unreasonable
They don’t inspire us
We make vague ones that are hard to consistently take action on
but really….
The biggest reason why our New Year’s resolutions fail is because we don’t
take care of our inner critic first.
I have unequivocally seen in my own life and those in my clients that an
untamed inner critic will support you in setting unreasonable goals,
choosing “should” goals, and keeping those goals vague because this is a
recipe for not following through and losing steam.
Our crafty inner critic does this because it does not want us to change! It
wants us to keep doing what we’ve been doing, even if we aren’t feeling
so great or it would make our lives better to shake things up.
Your inner critic’s #1 aim is to keep you safe.
If you are alive and surviving right now it will assume that what you’ve
been doing in the past is what is best to keep doing.
It will fight tooth and nail to keep you where you are. Change puts you at
the mercy of the unknown and within the uncertainty of the unknown is the
possibility of danger.
So despite all your best efforts, if you aren’t on top of your inner critic, it will
constantly be in the background sabotaging your attempts at change.
No good!
My dear friend and talented yogi, writer, and happiness expert, Heather
Kokx asked me to write a guest blog post on this topic.
In the article, I break down exactly why everyone has an inner critic and
some concrete steps to start practicing so that your inner critic doesn’t
impede your success at becoming a happier YOU this year!
Read it here:
The #1 Thing to Master to Uncover Lasting Peace and Happiness
(heatherkokx.com)
Also, if you’d like a deeper dive on how to pull in the reins on your inner
critic, I’m part of an online Wellness Weekend hosted by two amazing
coaches Beth Eldridge and Marla Press.
On January 30th, I’ll be leading a workshop on exactly how to tame the
inner critic so that it is no longer standing in the way of your happiness
and success. We’ll dig into what specific practices and process help quiet
the negative inner chatter and how to awaken your inner compassionate
voice instead.
Learn more about my workshop –Tame Your Inner Critic– and the
Wellness Weekend here:
Creating Wellness Together: Keys to Wellness in Relationships, Work, and
Fun
Here is to a year with unimpeded progress towards your deepest desires
and most fulfilling life!
Cheers,
❤
Jennifer