Has anyone told you lately that you are doing a good job?
Have you told yourself that?
In my coaching, I emphasize giving ourselves credit for all the good work
that we do each day.
This is an important thing to do when we are trying to live healthy lives full
of compassion and motivation.
However, it is one of the hardest things for many high-achieving women to
do.
It feels weird and awkward and doesn’t take into account the very real
evidence that we see that we are actually falling short in so many areas.
Whenever, I point out to my clients how many AMAZING things they
accomplish every week they often feel a little embarrassed or simply
shrug it off with “I guess…”
I totally get this because it is often what I do when others celebrate me.
This is not good!
Honoring all our hard work gives us strength to keep moving forward. It
gives us the perspective to see how far we’ve come and how amazing we
are so that we have the courage to keep trying new things. It also gives us
the blessed permission to sometimes STOP and take a break, knowing that
it is well-deserved (and likely overdue).
We definitely need to know how to give this to ourselves. To me this is an
often overlooked companion to self-compassion. We need to learn how to
sit with ourselves with love when we are suffering AND how to joyfully
celebrate and honor ourselves in our successes (big and small).
And at times we need someone else to lift us up and hand us a gold star.
We are not meant to live life in isolation and we need others to support us,
reflecting back our innate goodness and hard earned efforts.
We, of course, don’t want to become dependent on others to do this for us
without knowing how to offer it to ourselves…I’m not saying that we should
always be looking outward to others for affirmation of our efforts.
But it is okay to need it, to want it, and receive it from others.
Sometimes the external validation given from a outside compassionate
presence is exactly what we need to recover our own sense of how to
honor it ourselves.
So I’m handing you a gold star today for all you are doing, being, and are
becoming.
I know that you are truly doing a good job with the best you have to give.
I have absolute fath that you are being a good human today and are
doing incredible things that you forget to give yourself credit for.
Here are some things you might overlook but could take credit for:
Smiling at another person.
Feeding yourself some good food or drinking water.
Caring for another individual and offering them some love.
Pausing (even slightly) and responding rather than reacting.
Feeling empathy for another person.
Feeding your animals/children/partner. Watering plants.
Offering comfort to another being.
Making a mistake and making amends.
Trying something new and practicing courage.
The list could go on. I guarantee that if we were to chat that I could find
hundreds of things to celebrate you for (some ordinary and some quite
extraordinary!).
So go ahead, be brave accept this gold star! Acknowledge that you are
doing a good job!
By honoring this you are actually giving yourself energy and perspective to
keep growing and becoming the best version of yourself (which is really
always a work-in-progress).
Sending you a wealth of gold stars this week and the courage to truly
embrace the goodness that you bring to the world (just by you being
you!).
❤
Jennifer
*Do you know a woman who absolutely shows up for others, but is lost on
how to do that for herself? Please forward this email onto them. The world
needs all of us at our best and that means being kind to ourselves! Let’s
start a “LOVEVOLUTION”! *
;)❤❤❤ 😉