We Can’t Kon Mari Ourselves

I’ve always been tidy. Growing up sharing a room with my sister you could seethis visibly. My side (of the room/dresser/bookshelf) would be clean, simple,and orderly and my sister’s…less so.Today, this continues. Several years ago, I devoured Marie Kondo’s book TheLife-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing. I fell in … Read more

When to Call on Outside Support (a.k.a. when it’s time to head to a lake)

The past few weeks I’ve felt ungrounded, scattered, off. I’ve been resisting all my regular habits.  I’ve got a case of the “don’t wanna’s”. I don’t want to meditate, or exercise, or eat healthy, or even give myself self-compassion. I simply want to stop feeling this way and I’ve turned to distractions for relief  (like … Read more

Losing at the game of darts

I am an excellent dart player! I mean really top notch, My aim for the heart of things is spot on and I can unleash darts without thinking too hard about it. Unfortunately I always lose at this game of darts! Most of us do. In their wonderful book, Budda’s Brain, the authors discuss suffering … Read more

Being human and imperfect

Hi, I am Jennifer and I am a perfectionist. I probably will always have the propensity to aim for perfection but I am in recovery. I had a recent experience that I want to share. I showed up to a meeting unprepared. I had agreed the week before to be the notetaker and was supposed … Read more